God, Kids and Emotion

I've a lot to say, but I feel like making it shorter, in other not to bug anyone with too much details. And I'm not writing this to make anyone a Chaplain, but to give us ideas on what we can personally do by temporarily acting like a Chaplain. That's like First Aid, you don't have to see a medical expert before using or consuming First Aid. Without being a Chaplain, you can actually serve as one.

I'm such a lad, and kind of weird person. Before I learnt anything relating to Chaplaincy in school, had already been into it. It's part of my weirdness anyway.

With my relationship with teens (especially young ladies), I could only conclude that, they don't have emotional support. Thousands of young teens out there, having emotional struggle. They are in grief, lonely with a crippled thought. I ll be explaining different means to achieve a peaceful, godly Christian community.

Loving God, this is the most powerful weapon one can possess to fight this rugged life. When you Love God, you submit and be in harmony with him. Living in fear of him, it's the best.
Do a kid has knowledge of God from birth? No! They have no knowledge of him. They learn about him as they grow. Let me bring little from my life into this.
My Dad ll say, "he is stubborn" , people do say I'm stubborn. There's no time my mum tell me that. You can't break my arms without using the Bible. And I don't submit to any thought outside the Bible. Someone is going to say, very well, you are into Theology, that's your case. No, that's not true. My passion for God and his SCRIPTURE lead me into Theology. When I was in secondary school, I do debate alot when it comes to logic discussion, I do search for logic to authenticate any information, but if it's biblical discussion, I need references. Do our parents love injecting experience into us? They like telling you their experience, in other to manipulate(no evil intended) your thoughts. I'm kind of that weird person, I will tell him, because we press the same button doesn't mean we will be left with the same result. There hundreds of possibilities out there. Infact, getting the same result doesn't mean it will have the same effect on us. Here, I'm  not referring to stuffs like Don't steal, Don't do bad or whatever.
When my replies don't go well with Christians, I will refer them to the Bible. Like a brother of mine will say , " wait o, he will connect the discussion with the Bible". What I'm saying is, I think logically in accordance with the Bible. You just need to tell me your experience for awareness not trying to inject the fear of facing a face of life because of an action I'm about to make. Your experience is meant to sharpen my thoughts, not to crippled it and leave me in fear of pressing buttons due to others experience of it.
Instead of possessing sound mind of discerning rights thing to do with the fear of God(not of someone's experience)
Now, under my father's nose, I become a different person, that thinks differently. Why?
How can you help your kid to be a better CHRISTIAN?
How can you surpport him emotionally and spiritually?

I would quote this singer Michael Jackson, in an interview, He was asked If he actually molested the kid as been charged for. He said, "I can't do that, Never. I would rather commit suicide. I can't hurt a kid, I love them".

When he was asked to say something on the kid that testified against him.
He said, " that boy was suffering from cancer, I tried to help and pay his hospital bills. He did come to Neverland. You know the kids are innocent, they do feel compelled to do what their parents want. And that's the Truth, the kid is innocent, they just used him against me. You know, because of money"

I'm not saying the kid testimony is false or true here.
Seriously, the kids are innocent, and they do what they are asked to do, you got to be careful on how you treat them, they are going to build emotion around it, which will affect what they will become and how they will think as an adult.

At early stage, they do stuffs because you do it or you asked them to it. Seriously, if you want to build up a strong and emotional sensitive kid , do try to do stuffs together with them. Don't just say, kid go and do that, Do it with them, let them enjoy your company, then they will know what loneliness, compassion mean. Try to be practical not theoretical. Most people make terrible and grievous mistake by making silly assertion that Kids don't grief, as in they don't have emotional struggle. That's a lie, it's kind of difficult thing to know when they are in grief. I remember when my brother was taken away from me, being an innocent kid, I was crying all night, feeling lonely. And no one knew, which happened for many days, I did think of him. As a kid, I knew what it meant to be disconnected from your loved ones, and it affects my way of thinking.

When you asked a kid, "son, will you go and spend some days with your uncle" He ll probably say Yes. Did he mean it? Yes he did. He may not be able to spend an hour with that uncle, then he would start crying, I'm going home. When a kid is emotionally connected with his mother, father, maybe siblings, He would have emotional struggle being without them for some time. But if there's no difference between staying with the uncle and his family, the kid may not worry. Most of the time, we don't realise our Kids behaviour depends on their emotions. When I said a kid, I'm referring to children that are not yet in their teens. If your kid is OK without you as a father or as a mother, you got to check yourself, because the stage is coming when the kids will only listen to whom he or she is emotionally connected to  or he or she will ends up listening in accordance with his or her emotions (the kids will have his or her emotions anyway,you should help him or her in building one) , which maybe unhealthy for a CHRISTIAN home.

So your first duty , is not only feeding him, but to build his or her emotions before he or she is exposed to people outside your Godly family.

How am I going to Handle a Child that's lying or stealing?

Most of the time, especially here in Nigeria, we make silly assumption when a kid turn to be a terrible liar or smart meat stealer, sometimes we think they are possessed, or some other awful thought. Beating the hell out of him, when he has emotional passed through hell doesn't mean anything to him. That's just an instance. There are different reasons.

It's beyond the scope of this article but, I will say little on it in the next article.

Which of the following kids will you like to be yours?

1. My mum ll beat me if I do it.

2. It's not good,

3. I don't like it.

I'm going to move on dealing with kids emotional struggle.

I forgot to explain what a Chaplain is and Chaplaincy is all about.

Chaplaincy

Their ministry as representatives of the Lord often called them into the marketplaces of injustice and inhumane practices to be pastoral to the brokenhearted and despairing and confronting with all the authority of the Lord the causes of injustice, sinful unrighteousness, and social evil. A Chaplain serves as the presence or the ambassador of The Lord to the Brokenhearted, the grieved, lonely, and isolated souls. He or she goes through with them in their emotional and spiritual struggle, purposely to make them stand firm in the Lord.

I made it clear in the previous article, that It's actually what everyone can do in his or her environment. This article is basically meant to give us ideas on what we will be dealing with.

Which of the following kids will you like to be yours?

1. My mum ll beat me if I do it.

2. It's not good,

3. I don't like it.

Number 2 is the best, follow by 3. But what are the things to put in consideration in other to build up a child that would act in such manner?

Firstly, I'm going to narrate a story narrated by Dr Neil Anderson in one of his books.

He Said, two hamsters are bought for his two kids, which they gave names. One day, as He returned home, His wife met him at the Door reporting their Son - Karl - to him. "Sweetheart, Karl threw his hamster"

Before completing the narration, what Karl did would make any parent frustrated. When a kid is doing that kind of bad stuffs to an animal, you know, it's really serious. If care is not taking, such kid may not value life.  Even if it's an adult,90% of adults that found it hard to hurt animals (esp. domestic) would hardly hurt a person intentionally, such person has good level of EQ  (emotional quotient).
Note: being sensitive to animal is one of the characteristics of High EQ, but doesn't actually mean such has good EQ if some other things ain't put into consideration.

Being emotional sensitive is good. Have witnessed a dialogue in a forum, where women having discussion on High EQ men been the best. Well, I'm not saying you should be searching for that, but an individual with good EQ tends to care. So, it's good to get pet for kids(not making it necessary, but good idea), and build them to cherish it. You may not like Dog, but out of all animal that I know, Dogs are so emotional. They are sensitive to emotion.

From Wikipedia.

Emotional intelligence  is the capability of individuals to recognize their own emotions and those of others, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately, use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, and manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one's goal(s).

Back to the narration.

Dr. Neil Anderson was frustrated and went to his son. Karl why did you throw that hamster? According to Dr. Neil, He tried all possible means to make Karl confessed that He did it. He punished him, yet He was saying He didn't, when his sister Said He did it and a neighbour also witnessed it.

After some days, Karl's hamster died. What happened after then?
I will continue in the next articles